Death is inevitable, irreversible, universal, and always unpredictable. Accepting this, you would think everyone would be equipped with first hand knowledge on how to deal with a death that invades your family circle. If you were to think that, then you would think wrong!
When we were in school, have our teacher taught us on grief? When death occurred among our schoolmates, did anyone talk about it to you?? No. Death is like a sacred topic. Basically what they taught was more likely on professional basis to let us equipped with the best knowledge to make us valuable on market for professional career. That is why while we are way too busy handling our routine or extraordinary life, we don’t know how to handle death when it occurs. When death took away our loved ones and family members, we are not prepared and the entire environment will be gloomy, depressing and everything would be in a slow motion.
People like to connect the dots to make everything rational. That is why we like to ask what, why, who, when, how on almost every scenario that is happening around us. As we were shocked to read and hear the news of the murder of a great businesswoman; The Late Pn Sosilawati, we were excited and thrilled to read newspaper or google it and be the one who knows the utmost hot stories on this topic and later chit-chatting and talk about it together with family and friends. That is natural since we are human, and human being like to make everything logical. When we see a photo, we will interpret of what we saw. We want to satisfy ourselves and make sense of what we believed on what the photo is about.
But, when death occurred among family members, closed friends or loved ones, we will again try to connect the dots of how does it happened, what caused his/her death, who are/is the one next to him/her during her/his final breathe. We want to figure everything out into every aspect and single details. When the reality knocked our door and death stole our closed ones, there are really no dots to be connected. We have to accept that we cannot be God, and everything has been written before the day we were born to this world, and soon it will be our day to face death. It’s a destiny that has been fated and promised by God, we will never know why, how, what, who, when it will happen.. and hence we have to be fully prepared to be well equipped with the preparation to face the other side of life that awaits us.. tick tock tick tock.. the clock is ticking, and we are minutes away from death.. Are you certain that you will be granted another minutes of life in this world???
P/s: My late grandfather has passed away on the 20th/ September/2010. He is my husband’s grandfather but I always treated him like my own grandfather. When I visited his graveyard yesterday, there was a question mark, full of unknown feeling, sadness, to know the fact that I just saw this face last week and now he is back to the Creator.
I cried silently and said to myself, “How if death occurred in my family, or touched my father or my mother? How prepared am I to face it one day? “To be unable to kiss their gentle faces, to kiss their smooth hands, to hug their once tough bodies, to see their faces, to hear their sweet laughter and encouragement….and what left for me are only the memories…
Can I have a box of memories to keep all the sweet and sad moments of them in the box? I don’t want to forget anything… sob sob sob